My children are Loved, Therefor they will be Okay

On February 15th, 2014 my son was born into the world. He was the most beautiful, innocent.. and terrifying thing I had ever laid my eyes on. Here me out - 

After the pure bliss and magic of the moment he was born settled down and I was left staring into the eyes of this little child as I realized that I was now in charge of someones entire life. The hospital was actually going to send me home with this baby when I had no idea what I was doing! I remember counting down the weeks of my pregnancy so excitedly because with each passing week I would "worry less". This is so far from reality, the worry only starts with a positive pregnancy test, I signed myself up for a lifetime of worry when we decided to bring children into the world. The first few months of Carter's life were spend in a daze of confusion as I delved myself into hours of research on every topic I could fathom in order to make sure that I was making the right decisions so that I didn't "ruin" my son. There were plenty of articles so bias telling me that if I make the wrong decision that it could impact Carter for forever and those words damaged a part of me. I'm here to tell you that's not true.

My children are loved, therefor they will be okay. 

The one "cure" to all of the millions of "problems" and "bad paths" that I never saw was love. Without love what are we? Sure I could research all the right words to say when Carter decides to throw a toddler sized tantrum but without loving him through it we can't get anywhere. If I chose this way rather than that way, the books will tell me that I am doomed, but I know this isn't true. Why? Because we have love. I am going to make many wrong decisions in my children's lives but with love I can accomplish anything.

I love them enough to admit when I am wrong. 

I love them enough to say that I am sorry. 

I love them enough to look at myself and my problems before being set on the fact that it is their problem. 

I love them enough to lay with them until they close their eyes each and every night until they no longer wish to have me there. 

I love them enough to give them all of my time, over anything else that may be going on around us. 

I love them enough to forgive them when they are having a rough day.

I love them. And that is enough. 

Either we can focus our lives on endless hours of research on what is "right and wrong" when it comes to raising our children or we can simply chose to love them while they are still young. Tackling all of the many issues with love alone can change their lives. I may not make all the right decisions but my children are loved, they know they are loved, they love me and we are going to be okay. 

-T